Being Mary Jane

When Love Becomes a Habit
 

I know this is late but on the recent Being Mary Jane episode there was an encounter between the married couple during a counseling session which they face head on the reasons why the husband is cheating and the reason why the wife continues to stay.  The therapist asked the wife why are you, in so many words, why are you participating in this counseling session when you know the truth.  She then stated because she is supposed to be a type of woman that does not allow a man to humiliate her.  Then she stated she has invested too much in the marriage to just end it.

As soon as she stated this I thought, wow it is so easy for love to become a habit.

People invest time in a relationship but they forget to invest love.  You see love is not based on time but it’s based on moments.  See when you begin to look at the time you invested in a relationship, one looks at the things that have been accomplished; such as the success, the growth of the bank account, the way the couple appears to the outside, or how much has been accomplished.  What is left on the back burner is the love.  The relationship becomes a habit of outward show not an action filled with internal affections.

Once a relationship becomes a habit, it then becomes objectified instead of being nurtured.  It turns into something to display instead of something to hold.  It becomes a check off on the list and not a necessary beating in the soul.

Remain present within your relationship because it’s so easy to take it for granted when the person is expected to be there and the routine kind of runs itself.  Keep it new by always remembering that your relationship will only become what you offer to it.