Monday, June 30, 2014

Success/ Relationship: which should come first

A FB friend brought up a really good topic: Which is more important to find & build a relationship or becoming a success?  Many people made some really great comments. Many commented on which one comes first, neither outweighing the other. One person said, which I thought was really good, that it depends on how you define success.

I have seen many people that are successful and want a relationship, and also vice versa.  The point is when you have one you always look for the other.
If one is building a healthy relationship then that relationship will propel you toward success because it gives you the confidence as if you are able to do anything. The confidence is that you have someone that sees you for you and still has your back.

I mentioned these comments on FB, but here is what I did not mention.

An intimate relationship really teaches you about yourself. It teaches you how you deal with your personal mistakes, how you react when someone hurts you, and also how you handle change and growth.  Also, it shows you how you adapt to the world around you because no relationship is perfect. Sometimes relationships experience tight spaces. But when you navigate through this in a healthy relationship it helps to celebrate who you are but also allows you to feel comfortable in your mistakes and faults so you can continue to grow.  

Also we as beings that are always trying to find and solidify our place in the world have to be conscious of the road we travel to get there. Whatever road we choose guides our vision of how we see the world and also the tools we use to show up in the world.  So if you consciously choose to wait until you are successful to allow a meaningful intimate relationship to happen then you will most likely judge the depth and the value of your "relating" to people through that success.  You will also judge your value within a relationship based upon what your external will offer and not the unlimited gifts your internal offers.  It teaches you to hide under a veil of something that exists totally on the outside that extends from your ego.  

Whatever decision one makes, you must be honest about the reasons why you are making such a concrete decision regarding the flow of your life.  You must be honest with yourself because most of the time it has to do with how you feel about your being.  Even if a person decides they must have a relationship prior to success, one must ask themselves is it because they feel inadequate traveling through life alone; or maybe it’s because for them to feel whole they must be in a relationship.  Even this presents a challenge.

I am not totally sure what the right answer is…but what I know for sure is that we must be careful in telling the universe how our life is going to happen and in what order for sometimes we miss our unique designed blessed path.


Thursday, June 5, 2014

Fixed Mindset vs. Growth Mindset

I did not create this chart.  Those who were on the Breakthrough Conference call this was discussed.  Here is an image to explain it more easily.