Chasing Dreams

Chasing dreams takes courage because it is a journey that is at times lonely.

There are times when life gets hard and during those times we begin to feel alone, not just alone but lonely.  These are scary times because no human being wants to feel lonely.  Its during these times that we feel like running.  Running away from the current struggle and the current existence of the feeling of loneliness.  

Loneliness is a strange emotion.  It comes and goes like a tide against the shore.  It crashes against your soul and once you think it has left it begins to creep up again.  It almost feels as if you will have a shadow of loneliness over you and around you for the rest of your life.

Its during these times that are the most important times in any human beings life that wants to see a dream become a reality.  These are critical times because its within those moments when your life is trying to shift you into a new direction. 

For instance, have ever driven a car or have been a passenger in a car and directions are being given either from a GPS or from someone, well during these times of travel to new places each person must be focused.  Whether the driver or passenger, the only thing that is being talked about is how to get to this new place.  If someone is giving directions everyone must keep quiet so the driver can hear.  Or if you are following a GPS everyone begins to look at the GPS to see which way to go.  During these times of much needed direction, the wrong turn can cause you to become lost.  So, most instances the car is quiet and focused.

This is like life.  I am Christian but whether you are Muslim, Buddhist, Jewish, or a spiritual person that believes that a higher positive power exist within the universe...there comes a time when life will cause you to be alone.  But for us, alone means that we are not good enough, that we are not successful, or that we are not talented or gifted.  

Being alone for most people means being lonely, but these are two separate things.  It actually means that Jesus, Allah, Buddha, or God is trying to direct your path and you can not be distracted.  Sometimes friends, family, and the routine that you are used to must be removed.

The reason why this is critical is because if you run, you will miss your next breakthrough, your next blessing, or God's blessing upon you.  In order for you to receive this you must be set apart so you can receive direction clearly.  This time is hard because it almost feels as if your life is being rearranged and you have to find a new way to operate in it.

Just be patient and hold on and know that you are not done and it is not over.

Chris Breezy...Tell 'em why you mad son!!!

This blog is about Chris Brown's violent altercation, and the mayor of Toronto who was caught smoking crack.  I am not saying their experiences are the same, but they are both evidently in pain.

First and foremost my heart goes out to both of them.  It is hard out here just to be a human being and deal with your stuff on day to day basis.  To deal with the stuff that has been given to you from childhood experiences, from broken relationships that one must deal with whether broken emotionally or physically, and also just stuff that comes with just being an individual.

Mix that also with being in a position which the spotlight is on you in such a way that you are under a microscope, most people would not be able deal with this, but it’s also ironic how most people want to get to this level in life.  Chris Brown and Toronto’s mayor are in such extreme personal pain and turmoil that we as onlookers will never know. 

So, you may ask, how do I know?  Well…you see whatever we feel about ourselves internally always comes out in an external way.  For instance, show me a person that continuously talks about other people, and then I will show you a person that is highly critical of themselves and most likely does not like who they are as a person.  Also, show me a person that has done nothing with their life, then I will show you a person that is very insecure and does not believe they are worth it. 

When we are angry, depressed, frustrated, anxious, insecure etc. it shows up in our life. People believe, especially in this get rich era, that things can remove these deep dark emotions.  No amount of money, friends, fame, or success can cover it up.  It will show up and sit on your shoulder just waiting to be seen. 

I coach people to create success.  As a Breakthrough Coach, I help people to create success, ignore fears, and generate income.  But, I help people to create an internal success.  You can try to become a success and it will probably happen like it happened for Chris Brown and the mayor of Toronto.  Also, you will probably become a big star like Michael Jackson and Whitney Houston.  But you are just a freight train going fast, filled with all this stuff, which is going to crash and crash hard.

People forget that while there is an external process to success such as degrees and networking; there is also an internal process that must happen.  The internal process, which you check in with yourself and are honest about the emotional pain that you are feeling.  Be honest about the reason why you have wealth and success but still feel empty, being honest about the reasons why you are in a wonderful

relationship but are still trying to sabotage it, or the reason why you still feel insecure when you are further today than you were yesterday.

We all put a date and time on our pain.  We say to ourselves when this or that thing happens I will be different, or if this person would treat me better than my life would change.  It has nothing to do with anything or anyone; it just has to do with you. You cannot run away from yourself. When you try to do that, you just run in circles.

Chris Brown and the mayor of Toronto are in deep rooted pain.  They just choose to deal with it differently, one gets into violent altercations and the other one smokes crack.  It may sound funny but it is not.  Just like unresolved pain is chipping away at them, it chips away at all of us. 

It’s when we feel like we are a mistake and our life will continuously involve pain and heartache, that pain stops chipping and begins to take.  It takes our moments, it takes our spirit, and it takes our destiny.

If you have unresolved pain, seek help in some way.  I am not ashamed to say that I have seen a therapist and it has helped a great deal.  But seek help in the way that makes you feel comfortable…talk to a pastor, talk to friends that care, meditate or pray.  Just seek help.  You have greatness do not let your pain rob you of that.

Chris Brown and the mayor of Toronto is just an example of the pain that most of humanity is in right now.  We all just choose to deal with it differently.

Until we connect again, may your dreams remain abound.