Chris Breezy...Tell 'em why you mad son!!!

This blog is about Chris Brown's violent altercation, and the mayor of Toronto who was caught smoking crack.  I am not saying their experiences are the same, but they are both evidently in pain.

First and foremost my heart goes out to both of them.  It is hard out here just to be a human being and deal with your stuff on day to day basis.  To deal with the stuff that has been given to you from childhood experiences, from broken relationships that one must deal with whether broken emotionally or physically, and also just stuff that comes with just being an individual.

Mix that also with being in a position which the spotlight is on you in such a way that you are under a microscope, most people would not be able deal with this, but it’s also ironic how most people want to get to this level in life.  Chris Brown and Toronto’s mayor are in such extreme personal pain and turmoil that we as onlookers will never know. 

So, you may ask, how do I know?  Well…you see whatever we feel about ourselves internally always comes out in an external way.  For instance, show me a person that continuously talks about other people, and then I will show you a person that is highly critical of themselves and most likely does not like who they are as a person.  Also, show me a person that has done nothing with their life, then I will show you a person that is very insecure and does not believe they are worth it. 

When we are angry, depressed, frustrated, anxious, insecure etc. it shows up in our life. People believe, especially in this get rich era, that things can remove these deep dark emotions.  No amount of money, friends, fame, or success can cover it up.  It will show up and sit on your shoulder just waiting to be seen. 

I coach people to create success.  As a Breakthrough Coach, I help people to create success, ignore fears, and generate income.  But, I help people to create an internal success.  You can try to become a success and it will probably happen like it happened for Chris Brown and the mayor of Toronto.  Also, you will probably become a big star like Michael Jackson and Whitney Houston.  But you are just a freight train going fast, filled with all this stuff, which is going to crash and crash hard.

People forget that while there is an external process to success such as degrees and networking; there is also an internal process that must happen.  The internal process, which you check in with yourself and are honest about the emotional pain that you are feeling.  Be honest about the reason why you have wealth and success but still feel empty, being honest about the reasons why you are in a wonderful

relationship but are still trying to sabotage it, or the reason why you still feel insecure when you are further today than you were yesterday.

We all put a date and time on our pain.  We say to ourselves when this or that thing happens I will be different, or if this person would treat me better than my life would change.  It has nothing to do with anything or anyone; it just has to do with you. You cannot run away from yourself. When you try to do that, you just run in circles.

Chris Brown and the mayor of Toronto are in deep rooted pain.  They just choose to deal with it differently, one gets into violent altercations and the other one smokes crack.  It may sound funny but it is not.  Just like unresolved pain is chipping away at them, it chips away at all of us. 

It’s when we feel like we are a mistake and our life will continuously involve pain and heartache, that pain stops chipping and begins to take.  It takes our moments, it takes our spirit, and it takes our destiny.

If you have unresolved pain, seek help in some way.  I am not ashamed to say that I have seen a therapist and it has helped a great deal.  But seek help in the way that makes you feel comfortable…talk to a pastor, talk to friends that care, meditate or pray.  Just seek help.  You have greatness do not let your pain rob you of that.

Chris Brown and the mayor of Toronto is just an example of the pain that most of humanity is in right now.  We all just choose to deal with it differently.

Until we connect again, may your dreams remain abound.