Black Friday just passed (if you live in the US of A) and it did not disappoint most
people. It started on Thanksgiving too,
which I think they did last year, so there were more hours and chances to run
out and buy stuff. Mmm…did you do the
Black Friday thing? I remember one year
I did it and I swear I had an asthma and anxiety attack in one. I could not catch my breath; it was just too
many people and I felt the greediness in the air. It was like a thick dark cloud that seeped in
the skin of each person turning once sane humans into possessed creatures.
But why is Black Friday so huge…Is it because of the sales?
Maybe. Is it because it’s a good time
with friends & family? Could be. I
have a feeling it’s because people have an expectation about this day, which
for many leads them into the holiday season.
It’s the expectation that this season will be different and
the buying of items to make others happy and ourselves happy will somehow help
us to float on a happy cloud the rest of the year. Problems during this time even feel smaller
because of the expectation of the holiday season. It’s really contagious!!!
Expectation is an emotion that grabs at you; it grabs at
your core. It
places you in the center of your hopes and dreams. But here is the devastating part about expectations;
it puts you in the middle of your personal fairytale that you then place on
another thing or another person’s life.
One of my mentors in my head, Wayne Dyer, mentioned in one
of his books 10 Secrets for Success and
Inner Peace, is to have no expectations.
I know people may be thinking to have expectations is to think
positive. Think about times when you
have placed expectation on something or someone. What happens is we create a story surrounding
how we think something should happen/ someone should act and we become attached
to it. Once we become attached to it
when it does not happen, we become frustrated, depressed, irritable, and
negative.
There is no middle ground with expectations.
Here is how you have no expectations:
1
Understand that you have no control over
anything or anyone; the only thing you have control over is yourself
2
Be in the moment. Having expectations means you are trying to
define the future and forgetting about the moments. The only way the future can be successful is
to be in the moment.
3
Be realistic.
Expectations deny the realism in the moment.
4
Remember goals always have to do with you. So goals are good.
5
Remember expectations have less to do with you
& more to do with that which exist
on the outside of you.
6
Be you!!! That’s the only expectation you should
ever have in life is to be the best you, you can possibly be.
7
I h I hope you found this blog helpful. I have had expectations before and I continue
to fight against it.
Ev Every time I have expectations I miss the lesson and
blessing in the moment.
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