STOP DAYDREAMING....i think

Studies have shown that people daydream often at work, in fact studies have shown that people actually work better when they take time to just daydream a little.  Time to allow their minds to drift off to another land, another place and time.  Usually, unless you are a sociopath or psychopath, it is about something healthy that excites us.  A mental motion picture, starring you at your very best whatever that may look like to you.


The issue becomes when we live s much in a fantasy and hold on to it so tightly that we no longer appreciate the reality that surrounds us each day.  The last breakthrough conference call (which happens every other Thursday, the next one is May 29th, topic: Stop Living a Victim Lifestyle"), the breakthrough community talked about disappointments and how disappointments rob us of an authentic life.  One of the points that I offered was that sometimes we hold on to a fantasy so tightly that there is no room for God to enter our reality and change it.  Sometimes we become so intently focused on what our lives used to be, should be, or could be that we miss God creating our life into what it needs to be.  The need is what we don't see because those changes usually never have to do with a paycheck, a new car or house, or a exciting social calendar.  But all of those things are actually the result of the most important change; which is the internal.


The internal has the map to get all of those things but the map does not always take us in the direction we would like instead it takes us through hills, valleys, mud slides, and landfills.  The internal map does not always take you through a beautiful garden, a wonderful waterfall, or a glorious sun rise. But it does give you the strength  to appreciate those things even more even when we are standing in a mudslide and feeling utterly frustrated because life seems to have left us.


I saw the movie Walter Mitty which is one of my favorite, and the character Walter Mitty spent so much time living in a fantasy that he missed important moments of his life...until he decided to make life exactly what he wanted it to be.  He stopped waiting for permission to do so and he just did it.


So today give yourself permission to walk out of your fantasy and start living the life you want.  Your internal ma is waiting to take you on a journey but it can't take you there if you stop every time you hit a landfill and life begins to stink.


Keep going, let go of that fantasy, and let God into your reality.

Unplug

This past Thursday the community of Breakthrough Conference callers got together and we talked openly about the topic "How to Stop Pleasing Others and Failing Yourself".  Basically the conference call was about being a people pleaser and being aware of why you are a person that caters to others needs while forgetting your own.

Someone on the call asked a very important question, which was how does someone break the cycle of being a people pleaser?  I explained that you must know where the power comes from, the place which this energy got its electricity.

I am a recovering people pleaser.  This has been a new revelation in my life because I thought I was just a peacemaker.  What I realized is that conflict made me uncomfortable and made me a little anxious.  I wanted peace by any means necessary even if that meant putting another persons needs before mine.  This meant basically that I put myself on the back burner.

This energy received its power from growing up in a single parent home with a mother that was stressed often and dealt with a lot so she could offer my sister and I a childhood which fostered within our mind, spirit, and physical being a plethora of opportunities.  Also, I had an older sister that was always very emotional and seemed to be discontent often as a child.  So, I took on the role as the child that will not give anyone any problems nor issues.  I became the peace maker despite anything I may have been feeling. 

That carried over into adulthood but it first received its power as a child.  Now that I know where it comes from and why its there, I can look at it and say, “Okay, that is not me anymore.” I can observe it separately from the person I am today.  I can say that it no longer serves a purpose in my life. 

When you have found the power, you can then recognize how to unplug yourself from it.  You then understand how this thing attached to you and why it served a purpose at that moment in your life. You also understand something very important, that this thing is not in the seams of your being but its actually something that can be ripped away.

This goes with many things.  Figure out what gave that unwanted thing in your life power.  What made that thing ok to stick around in our lives and in our being.  These things are usually defense mechanisms that allow us to feel safe.  So we carry them around with us and after we pile on these shields of protection then we have built an invisible wall which no one can break through. 

Figure out that thing that you know is not benefiting you;be aware of it, find what gave it power, and then unplug it.

*Link to the last Breakthrough Conference Call*

http://stme.in/PERK0ZDGH