Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Immigration "The New Bully"




Let me tell you a story about a child and as I tell you I want you to picture this child. 

The child grew up in a home that was filled with love and surrounded by family.  The child’s life was not always perfect.  There were times that there was no food, no electricity, and no phone.  There was no money for clothes or to really hang out with friends. The child was alone often in their teens. But what this child had was a mother that told the child often, “Yes we may struggle but I am going to teach you what to do and where to go so your life will not be as hard.”  The child listened and began to think about how amazing this other life would be; a life filled with opportunities and possibilities.  There was a time when this child lived in a one room apartment with mother and aunt, but this child knew one day if they worked hard enough and persevered life would change.

Well, the child above was me.  I am not giving you a sob story because I would not change my childhood for anything.  But just imagine if someone told me, I could not try to do better, what if someone had stopped me and told me to continue to live in the conditions and situation I was birthed into just because…well, no real reason just the luck of the draw.  Like the lottery. 

This is what we tell immigrant children and adults each year to stay where you are…why...well just because.  The list on the “just because” goes on and on; just because this is America, just because you were not born here, just because there is no room, and just because you are not worthy. 

People do not understand that it was just by the fate of Gods hand that you were born in the United States of America.  Immigration is the NEW BULLY because Americans think that they are so special that it was their God given birthright to be born or have access to the land of the free and the home of the brave.  How dare you consider yourself so different than another human being to deny them rights, basic rights of humanity.  Most immigrants come over to America and feel blessed and grateful to live a meager life that most Americans would be ashamed to live because we have been taught that we are so special.

The American government spends at least one million dollars in countries like El Salvador, Guatemala, and Honduras to run TV commercials spouting how dangerous it is to try to come to America and how you may die on route.  Guess what?  People are coming any way by the bus loads.  That should tell you something.  As a nun said in Texas, whose church helps to house the immigrants when they first come over, it is a life or death situation for them.

In this day and age too many people believe they are special and they have done nothing except bought a new car and designer clothes.  We, as Americans, have the best of everything in terms of technology, opportunity, and yes the education may not be that great but if you stop staring at the problem from the top and think of a solution from the bottom maybe it could change.


Children are arriving with no shoes on their feet.  Yes some of you may be saying they will commit crimes.  Of course some will because people are people and not all are perfect upstanding and morally sound.  But some Americans, in fact a lot of Americans are ignorant, but I don’t see protests and laws forming to stop you from having children.  In the bible it says, pride cometh before a fall.  Keep being prideful America and we will surely fall worse than we have already.

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Pain:The Necessary Evil


Pain is such a human characteristic because most of the pain that human beings experience is not about the pain of the moment; it’s about pain regarding something that happened in the past or pain about something that may happen in the future.  It’s so ironic because, the past you cannot change and the future you have no control over it, but still there is intense pain for both.  The one thing we can recreate is our moments and we give away our power in that moment to the pain of yesterday or the pain of tomorrow.

I received a letter from my nephew a couple of days ago; he is currently in jail serving a three year sentence.  The main focus of the letter was how much pain he has experienced and the amount of pain he is in currently.  It broke my heart to read this, for my nephew is a brilliant young man and with a personality that is so cool and laid back.  I have had some of my best conversations debating with my nephew.  To say the least I miss him.  

In the letter he stated that the pain from his life caused him to make certain decisions. I am sure that the majority of our brothers living in the prison industrial complex feel the same way.  But what do they do now?  How do they change?  The only thing I can say and said to my nephew in my return letter was that I love you.  Love has to heal this.  I am not talking about a carnal love (of course); I am talking about a love that sees the best in you even when you are doing badly.  A love that can still points toward your strengths even when you seem to be at your weakest and scariest moment.  A love that realizes you cannot control anything except the love that you offer.  

Most importantly, a love that holds the other person accountable.  I explained to my nephew that it is time for him to stop blaming the pain for his decisions and know from this point forward he is responsible for how he responds to the pain in his life. 

One thing we all struggle with daily, no matter the education or the salary is how to manage our pain differently so it does not take us under.  I told my nephew that it is time for him to manage his pain in a way that it moves him to take a place in this world instead of the pain showing him the place he needs to reside which is in & out of jail or in the streets.

Pain never goes away; it’s just our understanding of it that changes.  That helps us to become more authentic and powerful human beings.  There is no way around it.  If you are searching for the authentic you, one must face their pain.  That understanding allows us to soar because then one will begin to realize pain is a necessary evil.  But it does not have to be the cause of our mental, emotional, or physical demise. 

The pain my nephew is experiencing is no different from the pain I am experiencing or that you may be experiencing. The only difference is the details.  But pain is pain is pain. There is no barometer for pain and there is no quick fix.  

If you think about nothing else from this blog think about this, as I told my nephew, in this moment you have all the power to consciously decide how you will deal with the pain in your life.  Will you carry it or will it carry you?  The choices one makes hangs on the answer to that question because most of the choices we make is a reflection of how we have dealt with the pain in our lives. 

I can look at a person’s choices over the last year and I can tell whether they are running from pain or dealing with it.  The dangerous part about running is that there are not many places to run and life moves in a circular pattern instead of an upward progressive movement.

So I will leave you with what I told my nephew you can do this, you can face your pain, because you are too special not too.